Power dating games

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The problem with asking this question is that it assumes that women and men have the same goals when it comes to sex.

Guys frequently get hung up on numbers; how many people have you slept with, how quickly can you get a woman to sleep with you. The problem is that men are viewing women through the prism of the male experience: the goal of getting sex as quickly as possible, as easily as possible.

Men feel helpless; they feel that they are forced to leap through hoops in order to win women’s approval and hope that she will pick him against all odds. In fact, not only is the idea that women somehow control all the power in sex and dating not true, but it’s a case of people asking the wrong question.

It’s a cluster of self-limiting beliefs that holds people back from meeting new and exciting potential partners, whether it’s for sex or for relationships.

Are you willing to acknowledge that you have a problem you don’t know how to solve?

I’ve noticed that there’s a topic that comes up repeatedly when it comes to talking about dating issues, whether it’s about the problems with being a Nice Guy, online dating, or even just approaching new people: the idea that women hold all of the power in dating.Women who aren’t conventionally attractive, whose body types differ from the culturally accepted ideal or otherwise don’t meet one’s personal levels of sexiness are out there, hoping to get laid just as much as everybody else The same applies to women.A woman’s supposed ability to get laid easily or quickly doesn’t correspond with the desirability of the available sex partners.They are The Choosers, the gatekeepers to the Promised Land, cruel temptresses who taunt men by being attractive and yet unavailable.Because sex is so much more easily attainable for women – or so the conventional wisdom goes – they have luxury of being able to define the standards which men must meet, wantonly cutting off men who are not rich, tall douchebags with square jaws and fast cars. You felt alive and wanted to share every waking moment with your lover, right? And then, a terrible thing happens to two people in love.

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